MY rule number 1 of survival/recovery to anyone who’s ever been stomped on on a systematic level or a personal level (And all the inbetweens):
Do not ever forgive unless the offender asks for forgiveness, ACKNOWLEDGING WHAT THEY DID, seeing that they will try to make it up to you or will work to not do it again, and blame no one else for their actions.
And even then, you’re still not obligued to forgive.
What’s more, even if you DO forgive, do NEVER forget.
Because they are still capable of doing it again. And you need to remind yourself that they’ve done it twice, despite apologizing and asking for forgiveness afterwards.
I don’t think anyone understands that the only ppl. who can afford to wait are the ppl. who have time as a luxury.
I am so sick of people praising him just because the motherfucker said that queer people should not be judged for being sinners because we’re all sinners (THAT. IS LITERALLY. WHAT HE SAID. NOT THAT WE’RE HUMAN. NOT THAT WE’RE NOT DEVIANTS.), because he hasn’t YET spoken shit about women since being elected as Pope while he did when he wasn’t - and I mean VILE AS FUCK SHIT ABOUT WOMEN. Shit he’s never once apologized for. Both about his homophobic bullshit and his misogyny.
And let’s again NOT EVEN GET INTO THE WHOLE JUNTA THING.
Or actually, let’s do it.
But others, especially in Bergoglio’s native Argentina, see in Francis the Church’s stubborn pursuit to remain silent over some of history’s worst crimes, even to re-write history to cast a more positive light on the Church.
The fact is Francis does not arrive at the Vatican with a clean slate. Even before he could lead eager throngs of Catholics through his first papal “Hail Mary” from the loggia overlooking Saint Peter’s Square on March 13, allegations of his complicity with Argentina’s bloody dictatorship in the 1970s and 80s were already resurfacing on the Internet.
The 1976-1982 junta’s so-called “Dirty War” targeting leftists resulted in as many as 30,000 dead and disappeared, including dozens of priests, nuns and lay people working for the Church at the time.
On Sunday, an Argentinian newspaper published a government memo that seems to definitively prove that Bergoglio did indeed provide information to the murderous dictatorship, informing authorities about allegations against two Jesuit priests who were kidnapped, tortured and imprisoned for five months for allegedly contacting anti-regime leftist guerrillas. Furthermore, Gregoglio is alleged to have sold the priests out even while he personally promised them his protection. On March 13, Digital Journal published a lengthy article detailing Jorge Bergoglio’s— and the Argentine Catholic church’s— alleged role in collaborating with that country’s brutal, US-backed military dictatorship, a regime characterized by kidnapping, torture, murder and disappearance. As many as 30,000 people, from students, trade unionists, journalists and leftists and their sympathizers to children and even pregnant women (whose babies were stolen), were killed or disappeared during the 1976-1983 ‘Dirty War,’ which was fully supported by the Carter and Reagan administrations. Many of the most brutal regime figures, including the dictator Gen. Leopoldo Galtieri, were trained by the US military in kidnapping, torture, assassination and democracy suppression.
I am Chilean. We ALSO had a military dictatorship at around the same time Argentina did. Plenty of other South American countries did. All around the same period of time. All in which the USA’s government was involved.
The Catholic Church was at best silent in every. single. case. Why? Because those dictatorships overthrew left-wing governments, including ours, which was a democratically elected Socialist government (I am no fan of the UP or Salvador Allende either, by the way, BUT THESE ARE THE REASONS WHY THE US WAS INVOLVED. COLD WAR. AND THAT IS THE REASON WHY THE CHURCH COLLABROATED OR REMAINED SILENT TOO.)
Here we have Francis along with Videla, a member of the fascist junta!
Poor thing. He looks so distressed!
About his homophobic and misogynistic remakrs:
says women are unfit for political office, that gay adoption is child abuse and that same sex-marriage seriously damages the family. In short, the new is just another religious bigot, with a record of misogyny and homophobia.
"Women are naturally unfit for political office. Both the natural order and facts show us that the political being par excellence is male; the Scripture shows us that woman has always been the helper of man who thinks and does, but nothing more."
Through a memo, the Movilh (Pro queer Chilean group) assured that the new pope “has taken role into plenty of hateful crusades against equal rights for sexual minorities.”
In the same way, said movement reminded us that he tried to stop in 2010 the bill of marriage equality, which provoked conflict in the Argentinian government.
nightvaleian-librarian asked: AGH. AGH NO NO NO. NOT GOFUNDME. ;_; I am sorry to tell you but I started a surgery fund on gofundme and they freaking deleted my fund and STOLE THE MONEY INSTEAD OF RETURNING IT because my fund was "Fradulent" or some bullshit. sorry, just saw your post and had to warn you. :< theres a bunch of other donation sites that arent transphobic dickholes. choose wisely please. ;-;
I’m not using them for anything rn, but I’ll post this so that ppl can know.
ugh that sucks.
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Truth telling does not have to be a traumatic,
abusive process. Believe me when I tell you
I have experienced social change in non-abusive,
healing forms. And usually, it comes
out of models generated by the most traumatized
of our communities–communities
of color, genderqueer communities, genderqueer
colored communities… we know that
there is a way to do the work without hurting
ourselves and others. Because creating
hurt is what our society does to us every day,
and what white supremacy and nationalism
and fascism operate on.
For those who might be interested, I created a Storify with a compilation of tweets/commentary from those attending the vigil and people offering support and solidarity. It is my hope that this vigil will bring more visibility to the specific plight of undocumented people in Ireland and those in the European Union. Undocumented migrants across all the EU are invisibilized and, as I’ve written before, usually removed from public discourses around immigration. This vigil in Dublin is such an important initiative because, to the best of my knowledge, it is one of the first ones of its kind to openly bring the issue to light and seek justice in the form of regularization of migration status.
I will update the Storify throughout the day with additional commentary and photos.
Many years ago, when I was 21, I dated a
woman who was incredibly abusive - to the
point of trying to destroy my friendships and
the beginnings of physical violence culminating
in a gun threat. …I was dating someone with
whom I worked. We were in different buildings,
but nonetheless, after the destructive
break up, which I initiated because I couldn’t
take her controlling behavior, she followed
me around during work hours for about three
months. I quit my job as soon as possible and
made sure that I changed my social circumstances to avoid the places where she hung
out. This sucked for me, but I didn’t want to
risk seeing her. It didn’t matter–she found
ways to find me.
The moment of personal fury and epiphany
came when she approached an acquaintance
(let’s call her “Sarah”) almost two years later,
and informed “Sarah” of my betrayal of her
love. “Sarah”, someone with whom I was doing
intense community work, was not familiar
with the violence I had lived through with
this woman. “Sarah” came over to my home
one day telling me I had a responsibility to
ensure that all of our community was taken
care of. I was so upset, I turned pale. After
taking an hour to calm down, I explained to
“Sarah” why I had broken off all communication
with my ex. “Sarah”, also a survivor of
abuse, immediately understood. She started
crying, having herself felt the effects of
abusive manipulation. However, a couple of
months later, “Sarah” invited both me and
my ex to a party–without informing either of
us that we would both be there. When I asked
her why, she said it was not her responsibility
to value one community member over the
other. I left the party. It was apparent to me
that “Sarah” was not sensitive to the subtleties
of abuse in our communities. As a result,
she had created a context for perpetuating
violence. I understood her desire to create
healing, but I thought that her method was
From The Revolution Starts at Home: “there is another way” by Ana Lora
(I’ve selected this particular quote because it’s applicable to what I’ve often seen on here.
No extrapolation will be given)
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